Okay, I don't mean to offend the women on this board. God bless you; you're a 
rare lot, indeed.  One possible reason is that the early BB stuff was male focused, surf, cars 
etc. Then there is the Pet sounds period...BW singing about what all young men 
go through.  Why bother trying to 'convert' people?  All right, you IDIOTS:  I have to agree Jeff that in all my years I hardly ran into a woman that 
appreciated this music. It's so great to see the diehard women that often post 
to these boards because they really take a stand for what they know is good. 
 I play in a band that plays originals and covers and we're all guys and I 
notice that 70% or more of our audience at the shows (had one last night) are 
girls, and they like to dance. Nothing like looking up and seeing smiling, 
drunken, lovely ladies twisting and spinning and dancing a few feet in front of 
you and all around!!!!!!! WHOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!! 
 I have had girls tell me that the Beach Boys are old fashioned. I should get 
with the times as they say. I had one tell me that she didn't like them because 
they weren't rock'n'roll. I am sitting here writing this post, while listening 
to the Beach Boys in Concert from '74 on cd. I don't know they rock pretty well 
to me. I sometimes think however that she really has never heard the Beach Boys. 
She does however like The band that does the song THe Warmth of the Sun. I tried 
to tell her that it was the Beach Boys. "How could a surf band make such a 
beautiful song", she asked me. The only song by the Beach Boys she likes is 
Kokomo. While a good song, it pales in comparison to the rest of their music. I 
try not to complain, when I ride with her as she is my ride to and from school, 
when I go home on the weekends. I don't know however how much more of todays 
commercially orientated music I can take. I need help, I think I am going to go 
crazy.  I think because female fans tend not to analyze the music and discuss the 
"formula" as much as the male fans do, we seem to be not involved.  my honeybuns turned me on to the boys and now i drive him crazy! nyuk nyuk ! 
he always says "oh god...this again?"....i like cars and water...has there been 
a song made yet about the Wisconsin Dells Ducks?....huh?....i try to dance but 
it hurts when i bounce....i say if yer girl dont like the music....so what, keep 
playin it and sooner or later she'll either like it or leave...or she could do 
both?....dunnonothin....urglie...urglie :) 
 My girlfriend loves the Beach Boys (although probably through my making tapes 
of all the capitol albums and box set more than anything). Imagine that; a 
beautiful six foot blonde 21 year old into the Beach Boys- some guys have all 
the luck (i.e Me!). Sod the California Girls, this is one British woman to knock 
them all out! We spent what was supposed to be our first date (just over a year 
ago) making out to Pet Sounds, and this winter and summer listening to our 
favourite stuff- she's into Brian Wilson as an artist, and knows what Mike and 
Bruce are doing isn't the Beach Boys ("aren't the important ones dead?" she 
naively, but perceptively, asked me when I told her they were still touring). I 
gave her a copy of Pet Sounds as a love token when we had to be spearated for 
universities 100 miles apart, and she totally dug it. Although she moans that I 
like music too much, she understands the importance of it. And if it means that 
just about the only thing we can listen to together is the Beach Boys, well, I'm 
not complaining! 
 I have to second Jeff's observation. I have been a huge fan of Brian's music 
since the early '70's, and my buddies and I spent hours during our highschool 
and college years sitting around listening to the Beach Boys. But no matter how 
thoughtfully I've selected the tracks, I have never been able to interest a 
women in their music. Perhaps the Beach Boys music is essentially a white 
heteorsexual male experience. 
 Jim,  At the risk of provoking the wrath of Jeanne, I have to admit that the only 
other female BB fans I know are the ones I met on this board. I find the ones 
who, like me, are fans of the post Pet Sounds era to be rarer still.  I have to agree with Jeanne-people in general don't like the Beach Boys. I 
have met only one other person (male) who likes the BB's as much as I do and for 
the same songs. While some of my friends have been impressed (or surprised) by 
some of their music from the 70's, they still don't really get it. My brother 
thinks I'm a nut case. Aside from the above-mentioned male friend, the only 
other people I know of who get the music are on the ones who come to these 
boards. Either this music hits you or it doesn't. Just my opinion. ----- Marie 
 Contrary to popular belief, I think  MY girlfriend Dana really likes the group. See, the thing is, most 
people know of the group only by the surf stuff. Dana's favorite stuff by the 
group is from Wild honey up to Holland, even more than Pet Sounds. Actually, if 
the group would've had a different name, they'd be taken more seriously. 
 Jeanne, Will you marry me? 
 el diablo, I'm 80 years old and weigh 400 pounds. Oh the lovely anonymity of 
these boards...  The Beach Boys in my opinion are and should be the greatest most influential 
band in Rock. They are a lot better then the Beattles, The Stones or anyone 
else. They know how to writer soul music. They are good on feels. 
 Generalities are dangerous, nevertheless, men seem to be more inclined than 
women to trip heavily on a band. That said, I've come to believe that the only 
people who dont like Brian's music are those who haven't really taken the time 
to listen to it.  yes it's true. My wife, who claims to be so eclectic hip, and also a great 
lover of men, hates the BB's and Brian. Although she's consenting to go with me 
to see Brian here in L.A. The guy was right on. Men are more emotional then 
women. Brian touches all the things we love, hate , despair, have joy for. Our 
fears and loves. An he/we all LOVE women!! what guy can't relate to that? And 
Brian's a regular guy like us. He touches our souls. I tried to play Pet Sounds 
for my woman and she just yawned. Only saying that she hated the phrasing in "I 
just wasn't made.." It's sad but Iguess the BB's and Brian are just for men to 
appreciate. 
 JEANNE-  Me and my work buddy are going to see Brian Wilson in LA but his wife just 
sort of laughed at the idea of going with us. The Beach Boys are a guy thing but 
history could have been different if Brian could have had his creativity 
unrestricted and do his thing to appeal to everyone. He could have reached a 
larger female audience had he been free to do more with his girl group he wrote 
and produced for "The Honey's". By the way, does anyone out there have anything 
by The Honey's? How is it? It's impossible to find. 
 I have some of the Honeys stuff-it's OK, not great. A  i kinda remember nothin but young girls screamin, cryin, faintin and rushin 
to get autographs back when?.....urglie...urglie 
 In their "teeny bopper" days--yes,of course.  im not braggin babe so dont put me down....but i've got the fastest set of 
.....in town...when someone comes up to me they dont even try....cause if SHE 
had a set o wings man i know SHE can fly?....that was my first song that i 
learned...besides to this day i faint, cry, scream and carry on....i love all of 
the songs...its nice to meet you all...urglie...urglie 
 I Love the Beach Boys because:  Tybalt speaks of the girls screaming for the Boys in their youth and the 
screams quieting as the guys and the music matured. That's true, but don't 
forget that even later on, the guys (especially the Wilson brothers, but not 
just them) still set female hearts aflutter. It wasn't screams then, but 
deeply-felt sighs and loud cheers. Carl was still thrilling us gals late into 
his all-too-brief tenure here in the world.  Hey PISCES LADY, there is one negative girl song Brian wrote about a good 
girl gone bad. Pet Sounds "Caroline No". Supposedly about an old girlfriend of 
his but alot of Pet Sounds is bittersweet. That's probably the only one. 
 Gordon:  Why don't women like the Beach Boys?  It was interesting reading somewhere that the original lyric to "Caroline No" 
as penned by Tony Asher was actually supposed to be "Carol I Know", but Brian 
misheard it. If this is true, I wonder whether the lyric in the second verse 
"Caroline You" was supposed to be "Carol I knew"? IMHO this interpretation puts 
the "blame", as it were, squarely on the first person (i.e. Carol just changed / 
matured, but Brian never got over it).  i still think despite what Brian says, Caroline No WAS Marilyn. Oh Mar-i-lyn 
noooo.... 
 dear ron, I think caroline was marilyn's sister or maybe the same woman that 
he named wendy after; either way it is a masterpiece, as is "she knows me too 
well" 
 OK Pisces lady, so Caroline loosing that happy glow may be a loss of 
innocence but if I were a girl and a cheerleader, "Pom Pom Playgirl" would seem 
negative and sexist to me or am I being too politicaly correct? By the way, that 
song rocks! 
 hey little tomboy and all dressed up for school are both slightly lecherous 
in tone. 
 I have introduced 3 lady friends to Pet Sounds, they were not fans of the 
Beach Boys or Brian Wilson's until after that introduction. Brian lets loose 
with his emotions on that album and can use music to get to your emotional soul 
with his chord changes and progressions, especially the double bass chords. One 
of these ladies is quite a piano player and she tried to play tthe chords 
herself after just listeningto the music, her comments as she was not getting 
them until I bought the sheet music for her " Damm it sounds like simple chords 
until you try to play them, he uses chords and chord changes that no one else 
would even think about, and IT WORKS." A previous poster commented on it being a 
male thing that Brians music stirs the male emotion, well we all have both male 
and female parts to us so maybe the Ladies that can relate to this emotionally 
are more in touch with their male side, ( not that, that makes them any less 
feminine, maybe it makes them even more so that they can get to the male part of 
their emotions without it effecting their femininity.)  Iain B, If you really want to have mercy on us, explain "urglie" 
 I live in nebraska, and the girls here dont know much of anything about them, 
probaly because it  Well, I am a woman, and I have LOVED the Beach  I (like some people) don't think it is a girl thing. I've watched this debate 
brew for about a month and am interested in the replies like a)after Wild honey 
& beyond a change of name for the group (although unfeasable)would probably 
have brought better success - its an image thing b) some girls simply DONT want 
to be associated with the bikini thing - in England where I am its too bloody 
raw to wear a bikini without dying c) what about a general lack of forgiveness 
after the build up to the release of SMiLE - people were promised so much if 
they were to believe the press (Crawdaddy etc) and then 10 months later mixed 
messages from Smiley Smile  I think that the reason why most women don't like The Beach Boys, or The 
Beatles, or The Who, or The Kinks, or The Stones or any good music for that 
matter, is that most women are full of sh$t, sorry am I allowed to swear here. 
Most of the girls I've met, and believe me, it's a lot, have never talked about 
films, or music, or anything interesting for that matter. Brian Wilson has 
touched me more than any women, apart from my mom (and no, I'm not gay). Ask any 
ardent Brian Wilson male fan, and most of them will say something similar, 
whether you like it or not. 
 Dave, I talked to you once on the blue board. I'll ignore the insult and 
welcome you anyway. I don't know any man in my flesh and blood life who talks 
about music/film. That's why we all need the boards, right? 
 It always seemed to me that there were more  My husband LOVES the Beach Boys. I used to when I was a kid. Now they just 
irritate me. There are 3 basic reasons why women don't dig the Boys. 1) The men 
in our lives don't just like the Beach Boys, they LOVE them. It becomes a 
competition of affection. Case in point, look how many of you are on this BB 
instead of spending time with your wives. 2) The Beach Boys are self absorbed 
(albieght very talented and entertaining) and immature in nature, singing about 
boy stuff that seems to keep our husbands rather boyish and immature. 3) With 
the exception of Melissa Ethridge and K.D. Lang, most women I know don't sing 
lyrics like, "I dig a French bikini", "I wish they all could be California 
girls", etc. And the rest of us hetro women aren't particulary fond of our guys 
singing "Two girls for every boy!!" It's really that simple. 
 What's simple is your evaluation of the Beach Boys by quoting lyrics from the 
first few years of their career. This is actually a problem for a lot of people. 
They just don't realize how complicated, beautiful and intricate the music was 
(even though it sounded simple and immature), and you seem to ignore that fact 
that they made music for a number of years after the songs you mentioned. Anyone 
with ears couldn't ignore that fact. Ironically, these boys singing "Boy Stuff" 
and leading us men into temptation (and ignoring you in the process) changed the 
world. Their influence on the music world (if only the Beatles) is so huge, it 
has secured their place in the rock'n'roll hierarchy. If women don't like the 
Beach Boys, it doesn't matter to me. 
 Amy, I can understand you being irritated about the "two girls for every boy" 
Southern California deal, as I have dealt with the "mirror image" of that, 
halfway around the world. Athens, Greece is not the place for a straight, single 
guy like  I'd have to say for me, too....and it's tough balancing my BB and my 
bf.....actually i would love for him to be a fanatic about 
something....anything! just so he wouldn't feel so left out all the time. 
 I am A WOMAN!!! and brian wilson's music reaches out to me....and i DO 
understand his message....I do NOT need a Y chromosome to understand the musical 
impact that brian and the boys have made. and i DO talk about films, music, 
sports, and other issues. I'm VERY intersted in the MUSIC of the beach boys and 
brian wilson. Brian is my hero, and all i do is listen to all his wondrous 
compositions and get angry at his overlooked genius!!! i try to show people the 
beauty of their harmonies and the amazing music....so don't judge EVERY woman 
based on what a few superficial bitches say.....we're all fans here, so don't 
get all sexist with me now.....i study them like a subject in school! i'm 
serious about them. I'm always looking for more info on them and i love to 
discuss brian's production style, musical messages...who wrote what...etc. 
 The above post is WILD HONEY  Grenade, I wasn't evaluating the Beach Boys, but evaluating why I believe 
women don't like the Beach Boys as much as men do. You mistook my statments and 
forgot the purpose of my opinion. I do understand that the Beach Boys are VERY 
talented and that their music is interwoved with beautiful harmonies, fun songs 
and deep human inspection. However, as a woman I find it hard to fully enjoy the 
music and get irritated by the self absored male lyrics as well as those about 
girls in bikinis. That isn't just their early music, and it spans to their most 
recent music. I did enjoy Imagination as a sweet, more interesting version of 
the early Beach Boys music and find it soothing. But overall, I stand by what I 
said. 
 Billy,  I'm a woman who LOVES the Beach Boys!! It has everything to do with the sound 
of their voices rocking in harmony and very little to do with their lyrics. Man, 
those guys could SING!!! As others have said here, their music touches my soul 
in ways other artists don't.  To Amy Proctor:  Amy, It's just so strange that you use your gender as an explanation of why 
you find it hard to enjoy the music, because "as a woman" I find the music 
irresistible. (I don't mean you're strange) It's an interesting problem. I say 
as a woman, but maybe not. Maybe as a person.  Most women are self absorbed and immature in nature, and feel a need to 
"compete" for their mans affections, which Amy has pointed out very nicely. If 
only they would join their man, instead of feeling a need to "compete" with 
something that he loves, we would then have world peace. 
 uh, yeah right....divorce court...except that *I'M* not competing....i'm a 
woman who loves the beach boys!!! *S* 
 i'm a stone-cold bb fan and my wife doesn't  Okay...NOT TRUE! I am female! I couldn't adore them more! I EVERYTHING I 
see...if it's the 5th release of Greatest Car songs just because it may have a 
different picture! Their music is almost ALL I listen to. I have trouble finding 
GUYS to support my musical taste! I love their voices, and think Brian was a 
genius! As most! And I think all the others were talented! It's not "women" in 
general. I have to be one of the most devoted fans. Heck, I've never even met 
Brian face to face but I'd give my life for him! There music is deeper and more 
heartfelt than anything now, and a lot of at their time! But..I'm one of those 
odd people who happens to be a female and a teenager(Yes, one of those!) Who 
thinks they are the best thing in the world! What girl couldn't love Brian's 
music on Today/PetSounds especially? I do my homeowrk to the, I clen the house 
to them, I ride in the car to them, I listen to them all the time! I work out to 
them! It's not females! 
 To the lovely lady who posted that she loves listening to The Beach Boys in 
her car. I would love to meet you. I am also into the Beach Boys and I am sick 
of people telling me that they ar enot rock'n'roll. If nopt then what are they? 
I am telling you I have been a fan since I was in the 6th grade.( I am now a 
junior at Penn State). The Beach Boys music I think is on a higher plane even 
then pop. It something that hasn't been defined yet. Their music is well beyond 
its years. Their music will be known well into the next century. As for woman 
liking them, I am a male and I love them. I am the ONLY one in my family who 
does. Everyone thinks I am crazy. My female friends have told me that I should 
get with the times. I can't help it. I can only listen to Shania Twain for so 
long.( although I can lok at her body any time) I think if the deejays today 
stopped playing commercial crap an dactually played stuff like Forever, I Can 
Hear Music, or Baby Blue. There is a lot of good music out there that should be 
played. 
 JUST A NOTE TO SAY THAT I AM A FEMALE, AND I NOT ONLY ENJOY THE BEACH BOYS 
MUSIC, I AM THE MANAGER OF THE BEACHED BOYS WHO ARE A TRIBUTE BAND BASED IN 
AUSTRALIA. THEY ARE THE ULTIMATE BEACH BOYS EXPERIENCE, AND RE-CREATE THE LOOKS, 
SOUND AND MUSIC OF THE BEACH BOYS, WITH THE MUSIC AND HARMONIES ALL AS CLOSE AS 
POSSIBLE TO THE ORIGINAL RECORDINGS. THE WHOLE SHOW IS LIVE, NOT A RECORDING OR 
TRACK IN SIGHT. WE CAN BE E-MAILED AT: THEBEACHEDBOYS@HOTMAIL.COM AND ARE 
AVAILABLE FOR WORK WORLDWIDE. 
 last night i asked a good buddy if he liked the beach boys .....he said "no" 
...i asked why ? his reply "they are too, you know....candy".....i bet he went 
home and put on a bb album ....he's a tough guy that rides a harley, (tatoos and 
all) ....urglie...urglie 
 I'm a black woman who digs Brian Wilson and the Beach Boys. I also like The 
Roots (hip hop), Bob Marley and The Wailers (reggae), Joni Mitchell (folk/jazz), 
and Coltrane (jazz), among other artists. So please be careful not to 
pigeon-hole others. It ain't cool and it doesn't do you a whole lot of good as a 
person.  Jeneanne, we have been guilty of that on a couple of occasions. Sorry! 
 I finally saw Shania Twain on TV. UGH. What a trite performace by a sexless 
little girl. And what a stupid undiscerning audience, what a bunch of sheep. 
Brian put across every emotion out there and he never took his clothes off or 
gyrated or pranced around like an idiot. I never could understand why women want 
to watch other women being or attempting to be provocative. Why would I want to 
watch Madonna, for crying out loud? She's a woman, I'm a woman, so what is she 
going to show me? Nope, give me the real thing--Brian's honest expression of all 
those emotions he is incapable of hiding or lying about, channeled through his 
musical genius. 
 I really respect you Jeanne, but I must disagree regaridng Shania Twain. I 
think she has something very special, both as a performer and a writer, as well. 
Her songs have those special hooks that make them very memorable. As a performer 
she may be a little lame with all that prancing around on stage that she does. 
But, I wouldn't call her sexless. I find her very appealing to look at, in fact. 
 Well, OK. Your a man. I guess it's a guy thing! 
 You're funny, with an obviously good sense of humor. Maybe it is a guy thing, 
but I noticed a whole lot of women at her show, which was on TV, looking like 
they were really grovin' to her music. She is pretty good. But maybe, just 
maybe, she's not good in bed -- gotta try to find something wrong with 
her...Smile. 
 No, it's not a guy thing. I'm a guy (last I checked), and Twain doesn't do 
anything for me. :-) 
 But see, New Exec, that's what I was trying to explain that I don't 
understand. Why are WOMEN grovin' to her? I don't get that part. I guess it's a 
chick thing, and I'm not a chick! But my main point I guess is that Brian's 
music speaks for itself-he didn't/doesn't(and wouldn't for that matter)get on 
stage and shake his ass or anything like that. All that stuff just gets so old. 
I have heard that Mike Love sometimes has (shudder)cheerleaders onstage...but I 
didn't mean to insult anybody. Twain seems like all the rest, but I'm not 
looking at her through your eyes! Or with your hormones. 
 I understand where you're coming from, Jeanne, and I wouldn't -- even for a 
second -- compare what Brian has to Shania Twain. However, I do think that her 
music has a definate appeal to it. I also, think it's great that she's a pretty 
as she is, but I honestly didn't know what she looked like when I first heard of 
her.  Jeanne,I agree with you-that Shania Twain's music basically sucks.It lacks 
originality,depth,and is  Uh,New Exec, you're making me blush, I'm sure it couldn't have been me that 
said anything, I'm much too demure. It had to have been Wild Honey! 
 Gary L. Yeah, there's an awful lot of derivative music and just plain covers 
of the old stuff. What was I listening to the other day that suddenly went into 
The Supreme's "Where Did Our Love Go"? The thing is, it really worked. I just 
want people to know that the guy took it from the Supremes. I hate people like 
Puff Daddy being able to make a career doing what he does. (don't mind Weird Al, 
though.)  Well put, Jeanne. I started this thread a couple of months ago and have been 
reading the posts with great interest and glee. I think maybe you've hit the 
closest to the core of the problem. I don't know if you were kidding, but I have 
to say that your observation that "the whole western paradigm would have to fall 
for the average person to get it" rings true.  Dear Jeanne,  Jeff--You're the guy that sent us women scrambling to defend our status as 
fans! I hope now with your approval I can be admitted into the exclusive 
brotherhood of Brian:)  New Exec, the board is for discussing and yes arguing respectfully. Sometimes 
people have to agree to disagree, that's what I meant. You SHOULD challenge me 
if you disagree.  Jeanne: Nope, you of all people don't need my approval to join the club. :-) 
That's the thing, the women who post on the board clearly love Brian's music. I 
just wish you were the rule instead of the exception. And by the way, you were 
right on with your early post where you observed that, really, not too many 
folks of either gender like the Beach Boys. Ah, well.  Dear Jeanne,  Jeff, you are right. At some level an artist is in control of his art. I've 
read Brian quoted as saying that he purposefully wants to make his very complex 
music sound simple. Which is why people are so surprised when they try to 
reproduce it and they have to work at it.  New Executive, no, that wasn't it. Here's your last clue: It had to do with a 
magazine article (GQ? Esquire? some guy mag)and the parallels between Pet Sounds 
and...something else. But please don't bring it up again here! 
 Oh yes, that was pretty cool. And what, you didn't agree?  Blushing again...didn't you read my reply to that post? We've got to stop 
this flirtation before people start reminding us that this is the Brian Wilson 
board...Merry Christmas!  Jeanne-  Well, you've convinced me, and I agree with your musical addition. I'll bring 
the records, or I guess the lingo now is, the cds. Could you handle the rest? 
 John, I am not holding out, I have no problem quoting Jesus, he was a very 
great man even if I am not a Christian. Patriarchy is a big problem in the 
world. I'll bet you anything Brian believes in equality between the sexes. And 
Brian loves nature, so he wouldn't be into dominating(read destroying) it. But 
this discussion belongs on your thread. I'll e-mail you as soon as I have time 
to think about the download you sent. (Busy season of shopping.)  Oh no! John jumped over to this board!! Run for the hills... 
 Jeanne:  Keats, Jesus, Brian, our Jeanne and the New Executive strapping in on 
together somewhere out there in cyberspace, resident pastor Brother John jumping 
in for good measure... interesting thread! 
 Oh! Excuse me...I didn't mean to interrupt..I... must have the wrong room! 
Sorry! I'll be going now! 
 Aum Bop, even you!!??:)I wonder who Brother Lee Love is; the guys on this 
board switch to aliases a LOT. Hey, we quit of our own accord, give us some 
credit! 
 Jeff, Thanks for identifying the quote for me. When I was a kid, (I'm 46)all 
I had to do was stop straightening my very curly hair, put on my bluejeans, and 
dis the government to be rebellious. Much easier to be part of the "Love" 
generation (on the tail end) than whatever today. But why don't they rebel by 
listening to Brian's music? That would set them apart for sure! A Brian Wilson 
renaissance...  Hey Jeanne:  Just picking up on a couple things in this long-running and ever-interesting 
thread.  I would much rather respond to the posts above, but I have to go out of town, 
computer will not be available, will have to talk to the relatives instead, I 
guess. Sigh. Merry Merry Merry Christmas! 
 You're right, Plymouth Rock. As a fellow 1959 baby, my experience is similar 
to yours. I can remember back in the 70s, being in the car with my folks who 
were listening to jazz on NPR. I felt like I was trapped in hell. Now I love 
jazz.  Hi Jeff,  Plymouth Rock, you make a lot of sense. that point about image is one that 
has been basically left out of the discussion on other threads about how to get 
Brian a hit. Usually we focused on whom he should collaborate with. Apparently, 
for the under 30 set, what he needs is a marketing genius. But the over 30 set 
should be easier to reach and I wish a "full blown Brian Wilson Project" as Jeff 
said, could happen. I wonder how he could be marketed to THAT age group. 
 I may not be in the "over 30" age group.....but i'm for Brian ALL THE 
WAY!!!!!  *LOL* John is going to download Jesus onto Jeanne until she gives up. 
 Gee---I've had problems finding GUYS who like the BBs. I converted (yeh! 
right!) 2 guys: they each have one token BB CD that they never listen to. Now, 
one of them is so fed up with my BB love, that he leaves the room if I put on a 
BBs CD, or talk about Bri. Guess it didn't work. If it weren't for the guys in 
the Cabin, God lovem', I wouldn't know any fellas that are fans. Until I joined 
the Cabin, I thought that only chicks dug the Boys. A lot of men, that I know, 
consider their music just a bunch of fluff. But, we all know just how complex 
(melodically) and soulful (lyrically) their music is. Preaching to the choir, 
here! *SMiLES* I'm Bri-Bri ALL the way!!  Jeanne, we all have a masculine and a feminine side to us it takes a special 
person to allow the opposite side of our sexuality to show without feeling 
threatened, And yes Brian is another way that I can get in touch with my 
feminine side if infact the nuturing, gentle passionate, caring, tender side of 
me is female. The thing is as a guy is allowing this side out without it 
impeeding on your male side. This is somewhat self serving but any Lady that is 
dating or married to a guy that is into and gets Brians music is a fortunate 
person.He is more likely to be a gentle passionate romantic. However even Brian 
had this battle within his music, the feminine side of the B side of Beach Boys 
Today and Pet Sounds taking over from the masculine side of the earlier songs 
about Surfing, Cars and girls. This is also where I see the disparity between 
Brian and love, mikey has never developed emotionally beyond the Male macho 
bullshit, where as Brian understood that to be male is also to allow the 
otherside to come out as well.  Iain, I'm begging you, will you let your compassionate feminine side out and 
tell me what the hell(this is the masculine me speaking) urglie urglie means???? 
And by the way, I'm totaly sold on you. 
 Have you guys still not figured out why women don't like the Beach Boys? 
 WORD! 
 Amy, North California Surfer, it wouldn't matter if we did, we just like to 
talk about it! And NorCalSurfer, I just scrolled up the entire thread and didn't 
notice any opinion by you. So what's your take on it? 
 Since when do we women not like the Beach Boys??? I've been madly in love 
with them since 1963!! 
 Actually, I posted under the username "Gremmie" back on September 29th. This 
topic, like so many discussed here, has no definitive answer.  Thank you. ditto. 
 Amy,  jeez, wish i had something great to post, but all i can say is great thread! 
I've always been fascinated with the dual nature of feminine/masculine 
qualities....and that's what draws me to Brian.....he's not afraid to be 
feminine....actually....that's pretty damn sexy if you ask me. *G* a big strong 
guy that cries more than ME! *L* gotta love him!!! i do. *S*  Wild Honey, I couldn't agree with you more. And damn I love the way Brian's 
music makes men spill their guts. 
 oh it's very true, jeanne....I've talked to a few guys and we dealt with very 
sensitive subjects....concerning Brian's music....it's great. *S*  Whereas we women need have no compunction about saying we are attracted to 
him! 
 amen to THAT, jeanne!!  I'm a female that loves the BB's. I have ever since I was about 8 years old 
(36 years ago!) Beautiful, unbelievable harmonies. I don't know why they are so 
underappreciated. Maybe it's just that most people don't pay close attention to 
music; it's background noise. 
 Im in my 20's a Female,and I love and adore Brian and the Beach Boys .So no 
not most or all dislike the Beach Boys. I dont know one female that dislikes 
them.hmmm 
 Jeanne,  John, someday in BB heaven we can all play out our fantasies about each other 
and the BBs, in some big communal fertility/life rite. Music provided by BBs of 
course. Till then, thanks for the compliment. And blessed are we who have ears 
to hear. 
 I believe that audiences enjoy BB music but musicians don't enjoy playing it. 
I've tried and tried to get a BB cover band together in the Dallas area with 
little response to my ads. I gave up and set lesser goals,like asking the band 
I'm in now to play a 45-minute set of BB hits. As if you could do justice in 45 
minutes. We have the ability to do this and I have all of the vocal parts scored 
out to save time and,still,no go. We play alot of pool parties at country clubs 
where I find that often little kids,usually about 10 and under,ask for Beach 
Boys,so we do our half-ass version of "Surfin' USA" and move on to the 99,999th 
time we play "Soul Man" or "Pretty Woman". Still,like the earlier post on this 
board from Australia shows,there are BB cover/tribute bands around the world 
(there's also one out of England with a website). It is really sad that out of 
the 15 or so musicians I know in the Austin and Dallas areas,I am the only real 
BB fan. My subversive plan is to bring in easy songs like a medley of "Good 
Timin'"/"Sail On Sailor" and "Wishing You Were Here",and then try to get them to 
learn "I Get Around" and "Good Vibrations". If we can do those last two,which 
are two of the most difficult,and pull them off,I'm hoping audience members 
would possibly start requesting others by the BB and maybe the band would get 
the message. Anyway,in the meantime,I'll just keep songs like "Kiss Me 
Baby","Please Let Me Wonder",and "Girls On The Beach" to myself on my Walkman 
while I'm lying out by the pool this summer. Urglie Urglie 
 Hey  I saw this topic and HAD to read it. I am 35 years old and have loved the BB 
since I was about 8. They were my first concert and the memories that they bring 
back to me are unforgettable. I am just shocked to hear that women don't like 
the BB as much as men. Actually, I haven't met many people in my life that love 
the BB. I really know nothing about chords and harmonies, so I am strictly going 
by words and the feel good feeling I get from listening to them. They, as 
someone else said, make me happy, cheer me up from a bad mood and give me pep 
when I am feeling sluggish. As far as the comments about women not liking the 
bikinis and stuff like that... that was always the way I got my boyfriend(now 
husband) to go to those concerts where Mike Love always had the dancing girls 
w/him. I am so sad that my five year old didn't get to see them in concert 
together. But, we play BB music around the house and I tell her never to trust 
someone who doesn't like the BB!! Just wanted to add myself to the list of women 
that love them and miss Dennis and Carl very much.But I thank God that we had 
the BB cause I can't imagine growing up w/o them--esp. those teen years that 
were so hard anyway...the BB spoke what my heart was feeling whether I was in 
love or going through a heartbreak. 
 BRAVO & warm regards to the authors of the 2 (two) posts directly above 
this one. Very cool! 
 very interesting I lost my viginity while the BB's were playing in the 
background. Hmmm good vibrations ;o) 
 HEY!! What woman wouldnt love the beach boys? 
It's just that in my experience, women tend not to 
appreciate the Boys, tend instead to dismiss them entirely. Can enjoying this 
music be gender related? 
Right now, as I type this, my girlfriend is 
asleep in the next room. She's beautiful and smart and sexy and wonderful. I 
love her with all that I am, but I've got to say that we never, I mean NEVER 
listen to the music together that makes my heart sing. 
She hates the 
Beach Boys' music. She thinks they're lightweight, all that silly nonsense. And 
the problem is, most women I've ever known share this mania. What's going on? 
Maybe it's just something in me that always picks Beach Boy hating 
women. I dunno. 
A careful reading of posts here over the last year or so 
suggests to me that other people have run into this phenomenon, too, though. 
I would love to hear everybody's thoughts on this one. 
By MCP on Sunday, September 26, 1999 - 02:05 
am:
Thirdly women are inferior to men 
By nai_snosrap on Sunday, 
September 26, 1999 - 03:31 am:
I'd rather keep all those gems 
of Brian's to myself, they're mine all mine! 
By Jeanne on Sunday, September 26, 1999 - 07:05 
am:
Female here. I LOVE the BBs/Brian Wilson. I 
have always LOVED the high male voice, falsettist, sopranist, whatever you want 
to call it. 
I'd like to ask the first poster, how many men do you know 
in your personal life that love the BBs? Cause, I know one, and the rest of them 
live on this board. At BBs concerts, is the audience mostly men? At the BW 
concerts, has it been mostly men? PEOPLE in gereral don't love them. 
The first poster may have a point about the subject matter of the 
early stuff putting some women off. And it is true that most of the posters on 
this board are men. 
My brother-in-law has said to me before that he 
thinks that women in general don't like music as much as me. And I read that the 
most common type of genius is the male music prodigy. There actually might be 
some truth in what the first poster says. 
I happen to be 
hetero-emotional, as well as heterosexual, which means that I prefer male 
company to female. The most gorgeous woman in the world is nothing next to the 
average guy. All these female singers bore me to death. I love the BBs at every 
phase (emphasis on BW) because I love them as boys, as young men, as adults, and 
now it's just Brian. And when I say love, being female, there's that extra edge 
on it that you men don't feel (if you're straight) So add that to that 
beautiful, gut wrenching, heart-twisting music, and the beautiful, 
gut-wrenching, heart-twisting vocals, and I am totally obsessed. 
Loving men 
as I do, to hear those voices go from earthly manliness to angelic sweetness and 
back again-GOD. And I MEAN GOD. 
But I too had overlooked the BBs for 
years. I just recently re-discovered them, but my response was immediate, strong 
and unignorable. 
So I suggest to first poster that if this relationship 
does not work out, you use BBlover as your first criteria. After all, how sexy 
can your girlfriend really be if she does not want to make love to Don't Worry 
Baby, Don't Talk, etc? 
But thanks for this question and giving me the 
opportunity to express my love without having to quote BB facts and minutia, 
which seems to be how most of the men do it. Don't get me wrong, I love reading 
it, but it's nice to read the male emotional response, from the few men who are 
willing to give it. 
Brian, I adore you. 
By David C. on Sunday, September 26, 1999 - 07:16 
am:
My wife always says "how can you listen to that stuff?...it all sounds 
the same...and my two daughters totally agree. My son watched parts of the BW 
Beacon concert video with me and at least enjoyed the band. 
Growing up, 
I took most of the blasting from girls in my classes...one wrote in my yearbook, 
"David I'm sure we'll all forget the Beach Boys but how could we forget 
you?"...probably because I was so adamant that people should listen to the 
greatest music ever delivered. Even at reunions the girls can't believe I still 
like "this stuff" since 1964. 
The guys, on the other hand, give me a bit 
more credit for sticking to my guns. And I have to say that with every concert 
it was the guys who I found to be the most interested in the music. The wives 
somehow were just going along for a night out, yawning halfway through. Again, I 
am totally grateful for every woman who does understand the depth of Brian 
Wilson. Cheers! 
By local on Sunday, September 26, 1999 - 12:57 
pm:
By waves on Monday, September 27, 1999 - 09:36 
am:
The Beach Boys are the best and there is know denying it. 
By Girlie Girl on Monday, September 27, 1999 - 11:58 
am:
Oh, but 
we are! We travel in packs and go to concerts together. We talk about them as 
people. 
We love to dance. We love the music! 
It is when we are a 
girlfriend of a Beach Boy fan that we tend to get bored with the subject. I went 
out with a BB fan and he bored me to tears with the chord structure and Brian's 
possible intentions!!! I just love them the way they are! 
By janegirL on Monday, September 27, 1999 - 12:28 
pm:
By Conspiracy Jim on Monday, September 27, 1999 - 01:03 
pm:
By Bill on Monday, September 27, 1999 - 02:43 
pm:
By waves on 
Monday, September 27, 1999 - 04:20 pm:
Where did you find her. A tall woman who likes the Beach Boys. What 
a find. I wish you luck. I an not being sarcastic. I am 6'5", and would love to 
find a girl at least 6 foot. Oh well. I hope you realize what a rare find you 
truly have. I am not being sarcastic. I am being very sincere. 
By tgfnyc on 
Tuesday, September 28, 1999 - 08:56 am:
I 
just don't get it either. 
By NE Pa on Tuesday, September 28, 1999 - 10:26 
am:
By White Cap on Tuesday, September 28, 1999 - 10:35 
am:
men are much more emotional than 
women. 
Women let out surface shit like crying 
to their friends because 
everyone's going 
away to school, but I think men have emotion 
that runs 
deeper than oceans. We hold them 
in, (we must) and we confront them in 
private, in our rooms, in our sleep, in 
our car, in our MUSIC. Music can 
BREAK 
a man in half. Tear him down to a child. 
Sitting on the floor, 
crying, listening to those 
beautiful melodies, wanting love, wanting 
to 
give love, share love, feel, feel, feel. 
Women like to dance to music, and 
have 
beautiful rhythym, but I've never met 
one where the music could 
kill them. Where 
the music was EVERYTING. Where music had 
the power to 
strip them of walls and masks. 
For my male friends, music saves them. It 
purges them of deep desperation and aguish in this idiotic world where men 
can't cry. 
By Guardian 
Angel on Tuesday, September 28, 1999 - 01:35 pm:
By el diablo on Tuesday, September 28, 1999 - 03:02 
pm:
By Jeanne on Tuesday, September 28, 1999 - 04:20 
pm:
TGFNYC, I'm rarely wrathful. i answered the first post 
in a big hurry and I've changed my mind since then. I think there is something 
to the notion that BBs is a white, male, heterosexual experience. I'm just glad 
I have enough maleness (or whatever) in me, to love the music. 
I've been 
trying to analyze it all day, but White Cap did a much better job than I ever 
could. Thanks, White Cap, for your response. I've been wanting to read something 
like that from a man ever since I got on this board. 
Lets thank God that 
there is a man like Brian with such an honest soul who is capable of pouring it 
out all over us. 
But guys, you don't have to put us down. Not all of us. 
SOME of us do feel that music. And I'd love to spend extended lengths of time 
discussing the chords, harmonies, meaning, etc. 
I love all men who love 
the BBs. 
By waves on Tuesday, September 28, 1999 - 07:18 
pm:
By Gremmie on 
Wednesday, September 29, 1999 - 12:03 am:
I began my relationship with the boys in 1973, and 
since that time numerous (not to brag) girlfriends of mine have been 
converted/enlightened (made to understand?) the power of the music. I'm sure 
they are, for the most part, grateful for the exposure. 
By ron k of L.A. on 
Wednesday, September 29, 1999 - 01:00 am:
By tgfnyc on 
Wednesday, September 29, 1999 - 08:44 am:
Sorry. I didn't mean to imply that your post was wrathful. I just 
didn't want to piss you off by making further generalizations about the musical 
tastes of women. 
:) Nancy 
By Gordon Baker 
on Wednesday, September 29, 1999 - 03:03 pm:
By Reggie Dunbar on Wednesday, September 29, 1999 - 
04:05 pm:
How about the 
Spring album, Gordon? It features Marilyn Wilson and her sister Dianne. Produced 
by Brian and David Sandler. 
By janes screaming on Thursday, September 30, 1999 - 
06:32 am:
By Tybalt on Thursday, September 30, 1999 - 01:35 
pm:
You need a little cordial 
perspective, the guys were heatrthrobs in those early days. They were fodder for 
the young girls in the way that NSYNC, Backst Boys,et.al are now. Once Brian's 
genius (and Carl and Denny too) came to the forefront,the squeals and screams 
died down. Of course, introspective music rarely produces the same results as 
the surf/hot rod stuff. Same was true for The Beatles at first. 
I think 
women like the BB's as much as guys do.but probably on some different level. 
I'll bet girls with BB song title names (Rhonda,Wendy, Barbara Ann,etc) have 
always related on the level. Alot of the early stuff was clearly aimed at guys. 
Read the lyrics to "Little Deuce Coupe". Also most girls didn't want to be 
"California Girls". 
Choices I would offer for women to listen to: 
"Don't 
Hurt My Little Sister" "Kiss Me Baby" and "Don't Worry Baby"--tender stuff. 
Avoid some of the macho strut like "Male Ego" and Hey Little Tomboy." 
By littleduecejane on Friday, October 1, 1999 - 06:21 
am:
By a Pisces 
Lady... on Friday, October 1, 1999 - 08:28 am:
I like my gender being a topic that 
has a positive note written about it. I am a “Girl On The Beach,” a “Surfer 
Girl.” I can relate to “And Your Dream Comes True.” When my boyfriend found a 
seashell and gave it to me I identified with “Your Summer Dream.” 
I 
can’t recall Brian or his co-writers penning anything negative about females. 
Many of the Beach Boy tunes are not gender related...”Wouldn’t It Be 
Nice,” “God Only Knows,” “Kiss Me Baby,” just a few that I love and could be 
sung by a woman...I am the chick by my guys side in “Dance, Dance, Dance.” When 
Denny sang “Do You Wanna Dance,” I said... “Yea! I wanna dance.” 
Too many BB 
songs I can ID with to mention... 
Ahhhh!!! The BB harmonies are what I 
really like. I can go into a trance just letting their voices carry me away to 
distant places. 
Being a musician, I really like the chord patterns and 
changes that are so intricate compared with other songs from the 
60's-70's...Brian was an inspiration to me for learning how to play the piano, 
as well as Carl for his guitar licks that I picked up on...I love this type of 
music. 
Last but not least, Beach Boy music makes me SmiLE when I hear 
it...it picks me up...it is a shot of adrenalin...a real stimulus... 
Yup! I am a girl and I am a Beach Boy fan...that is something that can 
never be taken from me. 
Thanks Brian/Beach Boys and all who made the 
music possible for writing some cool and hip songs about girls that make us feel 
special, and thanks for doing it with style and class... 
Peace and 
Love... 
A PL... 
By Cordelia on Friday, October 1, 1999 - 09:43 
am:
What was it about them that 
attracted us women? 
Early on the babitude factor counted quite a bit, but it 
was their singing and what they were singing that kept us fans. Someone above 
mentioned being thrilled by hearing male falsetto singers -- I'm that way too -- 
and the BBs had two of the best in Brian and Carl, plus they had Bruce and Alan. 
And the voices were so perfectly matched to one another, the blend so heavenly. 
By Gordon Baker 
on Friday, October 1, 1999 - 04:46 pm:
By a Pisces 
Lady... on Friday, October 1, 1999 - 09:35 pm:
It is interesting that you find "Caroline No" a negative 
song. You may be correct. Regardless, it depends on personal interpretations and 
opinions. 
I interpret that song as a poem full of questions facing the 
reality of young love growing apart but not as a "good girl gone bad." One 
person maturing into a woman, maybe intentionally losing interest in someone she 
once was close to while the other person can't accept the situation. It is a 
nice thought though... wanting to bring a good relationship "back once they have 
gone." It is a song of change for one reason or an other. Someone losing their 
innocence (I probably read this line somewhere) while the other wants to hold 
onto the past. Lost relationships such as this are a part of most peoples lives 
it seems. Sad on one hand..but reality on the other. In the teenage years, it is 
very common for one person or the other to go a different direction. The lyrics 
seem subjective to me but not negative :) 
Regardless, "Caroline No" is a 
beautiful song and I wonder how many souls it has healed. 
Peace and 
Love... 
a PL... 
Extended note: I couldn't imagine anyone else 
attempting to add justice to that song until I heard Timothy B. Schmit do it. 
What a compliment!!! 
By Sumner on Sunday, October 3, 1999 - 02:15 
am:
As far as I am concerned, I can say 
that I LOVE the Beach Boys. 
I can play the Pet Sounds album, close my eyes 
and 
let the music take me to the paradise. Paradise is 
world without 
wars, full of peace and love. You agree? 
All the best, 
Sumner 
remember, paradise is a state of mind, ... 
By reginald on Sunday, October 3, 1999 - 08:51 
pm:
And please, some more hints to 
the urglie urglie mystery would be nice. 
Peace. 
By ron k of la on 
Monday, October 4, 1999 - 01:17 am:
By doctorsounds 
on Thursday, October 7, 1999 - 08:00 am:
By Gordon Baker on Thursday, October 7, 1999 - 04:12 
pm:
By dnowak on 
Tuesday, October 12, 1999 - 10:19 am:
By Iain Boyle on 
Thursday, October 14, 1999 - 07:34 pm:
Love and Mercy 
urglie urglie 
Iain B 
By Jeanne on Friday, October 15, 1999 - 04:15 
am:
By positraction 413 on Sunday, October 17, 1999 - 07:05 
pm:
reminds them of the beach,wearing bikinis,,etc,they 
always sang about good looking women, well, the truth is,most women are so 
severely overweight here, they would not be caught DEAD near a beach in a 
bathing suit,so I guess we guys will just keep on singing about 
sexy chicks 
and our cars, by the way, I drive a corvette,just like their songs,and it feels 
great. 
By Surfer Rose on Sunday, October 17, 1999 - 07:35 
pm:
Boys ever since I bought a 
Greatest Hits album 
when I was a teenager (and that was about 24 years ago). 
I am from Spain, and moved to Nebraska 6 years ago, and the last guy here is 
right. People do not look very healthy here. But I think that the Beach Boys are 
the most underrated musical artists ever, but that's fine, 'cause I they will 
ALWAYS live in my heart, and the fill me with joy every time I hear them. 
I 
agree with Jeanne, the world don't seem to care. 
It's not a girl thing. 
People do not look at the music, they just see the "beach angle" and do not look 
at the artistic depth of their total work. We need to pray for them, they do not 
know what they are missing!!!!!!!!!!!! 
White Cap is right too. My experience 
has been that guys seem to be more emotional about music. And Brian Wilson is a 
master at stirring up emotions. And he said: Listen, listen, listen.... 
By Jon Read on 
Tuesday, October 19, 1999 - 08:14 am:
(by the way, SMilE is the best thing I've ever 
heard) 
d) the confusion in that the message of the music may be seen as 
"Girls on the Beach" etc far more than the fact (or overlooking the fact) that 
the music became increasingly talented & imaginative 
Its difficult 
to say whether men analyse more than women. There is a problem for men in that 
the stereotyping of macho macho and all that, I suppose they are less likely to 
open up. But when they do...............well, comments please! 
My wife 
is a Beatles fan, goes to conventions everywhere and yet she don't get it 
either. I haven't heard any of the women say this but my wife thinks the Beatles 
were better looking. Was this the problem? I think not but whatever the answer, 
what a shallow world... 
Well done White Cap, I suppose it's unfair to 
pick people out because everyone has said interesting things. 
If anything, 
the last person got it right when they said they dont know what they are 
missing! 
Check out the "tree" on Christianity (I didn't think it was my 
scene, still not sure)to see the effect on peoples lives. 
When something 
is wonderful, you DO want to try and "convert" the people you love 
Love 
to BW/BBs and ALL fans 
By Dave the Rave on Sunday, October 24, 1999 - 08:39 
am:
By Jeanne on Sunday, October 24, 1999 - 10:35 
am:
By Billy K. on Sunday, October 24, 1999 - 11:01 
am:
female Beach Boys fans than 
male.......There are 
a lot of men that have this thing about being too 
macho to like the Beach Boys....... 
By Amy Proctor 
on Monday, November 8, 1999 - 07:42 pm:
By Grenade on Monday, November 8, 1999 - 08:28 
pm:
By Billy K. on Tuesday, November 9, 1999 - 11:12 
am:
myself to go. Women rave about that place, but with an 
overabundance of hot looking guys who are 
charmers. With the "shoe on the 
other foot", I 
can totally understand your point of view...... 
...........It is kind of interesting that you mentioned about love for the 
BB music "competing against the spouse"....I will say, firsthand that it is 
true, not just in your case. I have a friend of mine whose wife has the same 
perception as yours. And it is understandable, to an extent---most men usually 
have some kind of "thing" to be obsessed with. But let's look at the other side 
of the coin---would you rather see him be a fanatic of a particular sports team, 
or wrestling, or go to strip joints or play poker all the time? 
By Wild Honey 
on Wednesday, November 10, 1999 - 11:35 am:
By Wils Honey 
on Wednesday, November 10, 1999 - 11:44 am:
SO, not all women are ditzes...and i'm sure not all men are 
assh*les.....despite the previous posts. 
By Wild Honey on Wednesday, November 10, 1999 - 11:46 
am:
i misspelled it. *duh* 
By Amy Proctor 
on Wednesday, November 10, 1999 - 12:39 pm:
By Amy Proctor 
on Wednesday, November 10, 1999 - 12:45 pm:
Good point, except I wouldn't have married the kid of guy you 
described as going to stripe joints. In fact, my husband started the post on 
this board about Christians on the BB...read it.Still, thanks for understanding 
the female point of view! 
By Ms. Terious on Wednesday, November 10, 1999 - 03:49 
pm:
Mr. Terious, bless him, is tolerant of my 
fannishness. 
By John W. 
Proctor on Wednesday, November 10, 1999 - 08:53 pm:
I love you! 
By Jeanne on Thursday, November 11, 1999 - 05:02 
am:
"Self Absorbed"? as 
opposed to what? You see it as self absorbed, yet so many people have stated 
that it is music that speaks to them personally, that they feel Brian is 
speaking TO them directly, that Brian got them through troubled times... 
Listen to Busy Doing Nothing. Brian talking about the minutia of his 
life? No, Brian talking about OUR lives, expressing so perfectly something we 
have all been through-that hopeful anticipation of the loved one, with a little 
doubt thrown in as he does so often. Such humility. 
He has the ability 
to offer himself to us in a way that is not self absorbed at all but very 
giving. 
By Divorce Court on Thursday, November 11, 1999 - 06:54 
am:
By Wild Honey 
on Thursday, November 11, 1999 - 03:52 pm:
By charlie brown on Thursday, November 11, 1999 - 08:19 
pm:
get it. that's ok. i think 
most casual 
listeners see the band as sunshiny-poppy, all 
about surfing, 
not deep. let's face it, the 
songs were meant to be bright and enjoyable, 
and some people just don't care to look 
beyond that. hey, fun is in, 
it's no sin...ya 
know? but it's not just women. frankly, i 
don't know 
many men or women who admit a bb 
obsession. maybe it was those awful 
clothes. 
the band has been sartorially challenged 
since the days when 
murry wilson dressed 
them 
By Surfer Girl on 
Wednesday, November 17, 1999 - 01:40 pm:
By waves on 
Wednesday, November 17, 1999 - 05:30 pm:
By SHEILA 
LORRAINE on Thursday, November 25, 1999 - 05:33 am:
By tuff jane on Monday, November 29, 1999 - 08:25 
am:
By Jeneanne on Tuesday, November 30, 1999 - 06:50 
pm:
Peace out! 
By apology is in order on Wednesday, December 1, 1999 - 
03:09 pm:
By Jeanne on Saturday, December 11, 1999 - 06:17 
am:
By new executive on Wednesday, December 15, 1999 - 04:00 
pm:
By Jeanne on Wednesday, December 15, 1999 - 06:58 
pm:
By new executive on Thursday, December 16, 1999 - 06:46 
am:
By Dr. Jimmy on Thursday, December 16, 1999 - 01:27 
pm:
By Jeanne on Thursday, December 16, 1999 - 04:43 
pm:
By new executive on Friday, December 17, 1999 - 05:25 
am:
Brian's music has an riviting soul to it. It doesn't matter if he 
shakes, twists, rocks, or rolls on stage when he's presenting it. The music 
still will move you, regardless. Hell, he can sit on stage and not move -- which 
isn't far from what he actually did on his last tour -- and the music will still 
be wonderful. There's no mistaking that fact. He doesn't need the sizzle to sell 
his steak. 
However, Twain does do all the aforementioned. Yet, her music 
still has merit. 
As for the hormome part, didn't I once read that you would 
love to do something very sexual to my buddy, Brian in one of your posts? Hey, I 
think it's great that ladies still look at the big guy as a verile hunk. That's 
really cool to me. I hope you get your wish. 
By Gary L. on Friday, December 17, 1999 - 04:32 
pm:
meant to be listened to mostly on a physical and 
superficial level.That's also the problem with many other artists in today's 
music-no real creative and original ideas,just an endless parade of musical copy 
cats.If many of today's young people(under 30)had better taste the BB would 
probably be as popular today as they were in their hay day. 
By Jeanne on Friday, December 17, 1999 - 06:37 
pm:
Brian was never selling himself, he was out to make the listener feel 
loved(his own words as you know) and to access the spiritual. 
I wonder 
what Shania's mission statement is. But let's not argue! (And excuse me but I 
remember a certain post of yours on the Pet Sounds board, dude.) 
By Jeanne on Saturday, December 18, 1999 - 10:48 
am:
I feel I don’t listen to top forty enough to have a very 
educated opinion. Nevertheless, I share your feelings 
In the case of 
Shania and that type, there's a lot of focus on sex and if people get turned on 
they assume the music is good. (No offense N. E.) But it's so easy to do, a 
certain drum beat, bass line, somebody wiggling around on stage. 
However, I can't hold the under 30 set more responsible than the over 30 
set. If anything, it's the over 30 set (why is 30 the delineation?) that ought 
to know better. Why doesn't Brian have a larger following from my age group? We 
came up with better music IMHO, but today, everything on the radio is formatted. 
In the late 60s early 70s, you had DJs on progressive stations who were allowed 
to pick what they played, and they researched and listened to obscure bands and 
they had the power to make a band famous. How much independence do DJs have 
today? Young people are at the mercy of what the industry offers them. 
As for why more young people don't like the BBs, well I'd like to ask 
them. We've had some young posters talk about how they became fans and how their 
friends think they're crazy. I'd like an analysis of it. What about the BBs/BW 
do you not like? What does the music say to you that turns you off? If the 
average kid out there thinks that Mike Love represents Brian's body of work, 
well, that's part of the problem. 
Also, Brian is rarely macho. A 
boy/young man who is using music to help him express and learn about his 
maleness, as it is defined and marketed today, is going to dismiss Brian's music 
as sweet, in the sickly, insipid sense without really LISTENING. (By the way, it 
drives me crazy when people talk about Brian and Burt Bacharach in the same 
breath. They are light years apart.) 
Brian is rare. He's just a rare 
being. His music is rare. Just some of us get it. Seems like maybe the whole 
western paradigm would have to fall for the average person to get it. 
By Jeff on Saturday, December 18, 1999 - 11:28 
am:
We're talking about great 
art that is at odds with most people's socially-constructed reality and is 
therefore, perhaps, frightening. 
Could it be that Brian Wilson's music 
is unintentionally subversive? 
I have more thoughts on this, but I can't 
seem to get them down correctly. I keep writing paragraphs and deleting them. 
Dang it! 
Maybe the music is just too pure. 
By new executive on Saturday, December 18, 1999 - 12:07 
pm:
I am not sure what post you are referring to on the Pet 
Sounds board, but nonethelss, I didn't mean to argue with you. 
I am preety 
impressed though that I got you to blush for me. Smiley smile, here. 
By Jeanne on Saturday, December 18, 1999 - 04:41 
pm:
I was perfectly serious. Look at the Western 
Paradigm: man as the crown of creation, woman second best, the earth subdued, 
materialism, competition, linear time and logic. Sound like Brian? 
Or 
turn it around, maybe if enough people listened and HEARD the music, it would 
all fall down. 
I think you said it fine, great art IS subversive. And I 
agree about the fear factor. Brian is open, honest and vulnerable. People 
tighten their hearts against those emotions; we're all so jaded and 
sophisticated. It's hard to say, I've been typing and deleting myself. 
But unintentional? I wonder. I'd really like to talk to him. Yeah, talk 
philosophy with Brian! 
By Jeanne on Saturday, December 18, 1999 - 04:53 
pm:
Actually it's the second time you made me blush. How 
could you forget that post? You men are so cavalier. 
By Jeff on Saturday, December 18, 1999 - 08:53 
pm:
Here's why I say 
the subversive element is unintentional: Standard rock and roll is so 
predictably "subversive" and it's that surface level of rebellion that so many 
people seem to respond to. With Brian's music, it seems to me, there's very 
little that is contrived or self-conscious. It's like it comes straight through 
him from the cosmos. I think it's the lack of *intentional* subversion that 
makes his music so incredibly powerful. It's just the real thing. 
I 
don't know, just a hypothesis. 
What do you think? 
Anyhow, happy 
holidays to you and everybody else out there! 
By new executive on Sunday, December 19, 1999 - 08:22 
am:
You mean that I made you blush the first time merely by 
calling you sweet for helping me navaigate back to this board? 
Wow, you are 
a very responsive woman and I must tell you, I am quite impressed with that -- 
really I am! 
And yes, I do respecfully disagree with your opinion of Shania 
Twain. Howver, I would never -- even for a minute -- put her on musical par with 
Brian. That would be sacralegious for me. 
But, I understand whre you are 
coming from on this issue. Plus, you have a lot of spunk in your delivery. 
By Jeanne on Sunday, December 19, 1999 - 04:24 
pm:
But at another level there is 
inspiration. There's been some talk on the board about Brian's muse. "Straight 
through him from the cosmos" makes sense to me. And what's that expression? The 
sum is bigger than the parts. Brian is truly the Master. 
Interesting 
points about subversion. Here's some thoughts: I think music really did used to 
be subversive, but it's been co-opted now and only seems to want to push the 
boundaries of acceptable public expressions of sexuality. These days you can buy 
your rebellion at the Mall. You reach a point where everything that can be said 
has been said, and the only thing that is original and viable is Beauty. ( I 
just looked up viable in my dictionary, and the first thing it says is "capable 
of living…under favorable conditions." It's interesting to think of Brian's 
music that way--It's living, alive, as long as we LISTEN) "Beauty is Truth, 
Truth Beauty" Cant remember who said, it but it applies to Brian's music. And 
from that we can go to "Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you 
free." Well I could go on forever about the Psycho-delicate Master. 
Hey, 
I always felt a little bad about my comment about your girlfriend in my first 
reply on this thread. Sorry, no disrespect intended, I was in the throes of a 
great big gushy response. 
And Merry Christmas to you, too, and all 
of us! 
By Jeanne on Sunday, December 19, 1999 - 04:35 
pm:
By new executive on Sunday, December 19, 1999 - 06:38 
pm:
I always 
thought that making love with Pet Sounds playing in the background heighened the 
experience. 
If you haven't already, you should try it. You sound like 
someone who'd appreciate the trip. 
By Jeanne on Sunday, December 19, 1999 - 07:35 
pm:
By the way, Don't Worry Baby would need to be 
playing also. 
By John W. 
Proctor on Monday, December 20, 1999 - 01:32 am:
Quoting Christ, eh? 
You're holding out on me. 
-Linear 
Western Patriarchal Dinosaur John 
By new executive on Monday, December 20, 1999 - 05:06 
am:
Have a Happy Christmas, too! 
By Jeanne on Monday, December 20, 1999 - 06:39 
am:
Jeanne 
By Brian's Sandbox on Monday, December 20, 1999 - 08:38 
pm:
By Jeff on Tuesday, December 21, 1999 - 10:40 
am:
"Beauty is truth, truth beauty--that is all 
Ye know on 
earth, and all ye need to know." Wonderful -- that's John Keats from "Ode on a 
Grecian Urn." Keats is another artist who had a direct pipeline to the eternal. 
What an excellent quote to bring up in a discussion of Brian Wilson's music. 
That's also an apt observation about buying rebellion at the mall. It's 
almost as if rebellion is no longer possible for kids, like the powers that be 
have figured all the angles and whichever way they try to make a statement has 
already been figured and marketed. A buddy of mine who is a poet uses the phrase 
"generic originality" to descirbe the victims of this phenomena. 
Anyway, 
I'm sitting here listening to Johnny Cash's tremendous "American Recordings" 
album from 8 or 10 years ago with "Friends" coming up next on the cd player. The 
real thing to the real thing. What a fine early afternoon in the South! 
No offense taken from the early post! If she appreciated the Beach Boys, 
my girl would probably be too perfect and vanish in a bright, shimmering glow. 
Everything in nature must have a flaw. 
Okay, I've waxed on long enough. 
"Friends" has just begun and I'm drifting away. . . 
By Brother Lee Love on Tuesday, December 21, 1999 - 
07:47 pm:
By Aum Bop Diddit on Tuesday, December 21, 1999 - 08:50 
pm:
By Jeanne on Wednesday, December 22, 1999 - 06:39 
am:
By Jeanne on Wednesday, December 22, 1999 - 07:21 
am:
I have to laugh at the see-saw conversaton I've been 
having recently-from the sublime to the-???? But hope this great thread doesn't 
get littered with hecklers. 
By Jeff on Wednesday, December 22, 1999 - 11:01 
am:
Yep, a Brian Wilson renaissance would be magnificent. 
I'll betcha it could happen if, somehow, enough kids got a whiff of the Pet 
Sounds / Smile-era stuff. 
I agree that it's tough on the young 'uns now; 
it just seems like they're cornered. But youth always finds a way. 
Me, 
I'm 40, and though it would be cool to be 18 again, I would not trade my salad 
days for these. 
A question for you, if you don't mind: I've seen posts 
where you suggest that you're a new fan, but if you described how you got turned 
onto this music, I missed it. You certainly know and understand Brian's music, 
seemingly in your bones. What, specifically, made you start listening? For me it 
was being 14 or 15 and hanging out at a buddy's house who was a big fan. The 
Beach Boys were always on the turntable and for a long time it was just 
background music, and then, one day -- WHAM! I finally heard the music and I 
haven't stopped listening since. 
Perhaps the story of how you started 
listening could shed light on the question that got this thread going in the 
first place. 
(If you've already answered this, feel free to direct me to 
the proper thread. Or, if you don't want to answer, feel free to tell me to buzz 
off.) 
Happy holidays to all! 
By Plymouth Rock on Wednesday, December 22, 1999 - 12:56 
pm:
There may well be a BW renaissance; it some ways it's already 
happening. (Lots of good media coverage, good tour, decent album out last year, 
PS showing up on best of the century lists, etc.) I do think that BW will never 
be enormously popular with the 15-30 age group for the simple reason that pop 
music thrives as much on image as much as the music itself. The kids listening 
to, say, Britney Spears aren't just enjoying the music, they are connecting with 
what is packaged for them as Britney's image, lifestyle, etc. By listening to 
Britney they are saying, "That's my image, that's my lifestyle". It's a belief 
system. The same goes for alternative rock, country, rap, you name it artists: 
it's buying into an image. (Of course, the same is true of how Capitol marketed 
the BB's back in the early 60's). 
I mean, someone who turned 18 this year 
was born in 1981. For them, the mid-60's are a long time ago. They also identify 
the music from that era with their parents, making it less likely that they are 
going to be receptive to that music. I was born in 1959; I now love a lot of the 
music from the 40's and 50's but there was no way I was going to listen to that 
when I was in high school. 
That's why I think it's somewhat sad the BW seems 
to be holding on to hope that he will have a big hit at the age of 58 (next 
June). How many 58 year olds were denting the charts in 1960, 1970, or 1980? I 
would bet, not many. Pop music is only partly about the music, it's in large 
sense about image and marketing. I'm not saying that's evil, I'm just saying 
that's the way it is. 
There will always be younger people getting into BW. 
There is just never going to be a critical mass of them, enough to turn it into 
a big deal. 
HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!!!!! 
By Jeanne on Thursday, December 23, 1999 - 04:28 
am:
By Jeff on Thursday, December 23, 1999 - 08:39 
am:
More to the point, I agree that a "hit" is probably not in Brian's 
future at this point. (Though I am not so sure that "South American" wouldn't 
have done well on the charts if it had been pushed as a single. Also, I don't 
have nearly the problem imagining the Stones or Bowie, for example, producing a 
popular song or album.) 
What frustrates me is that the people around 
Brian and the record company executives don't seem to understand just how 
culturally valuable -- and at least marginally commercial -- a full-blown Brian 
Wilson project could be. 
That said, I do love Imagination and the rest 
of his solo projects. But it would be nice if Brian found himself in the proper 
psychic space to experiment again on a grand scale & had a distribution 
contract which provided him an outlet for his work. 
Okay, I'm beginning 
to ramble. 
Happy holidays! 
By Jeanne on Sunday, December 26, 1999 - 04:24 
pm:
I have at times talked about how I became a fan, but I have 
no problem repeating myself! Or elaborating. 
But I don't know how much 
insight it will provide into why women don't like the BBs as much as men. 
I had heard quotes by Paul McCartney and Leonard Bernstein about the 
influence of Brian's music, and I was surprised. Like everybody else who knows 
no better, I thought the BBs were basically surf music with occasional gems like 
GV and GOK. My interest was piqued because my ignorance about music bothers me. 
One day last summer I ran into a copy of Wouldn't It Be Nice, misplaced 
on the shelf for new books. So I read it and became intrigued with Brian. (I 
realize now that the book is not what it seems.) 
Next I bought Pet 
Sounds, and here my story is like any other new fan's. And brings up the 
questions addressed in different ways on different threads: Why is the music so 
special? Why do only a few people get it? Why should WIBN and GOK and Don't Talk 
have brought me to my knees(figuratively, I was always driving when I was 
listening)? Why did I have to pull over the first time I heard Don't worry Baby? 
That's the mystery-why the music is so beautiful-even the "surf" tunes 
have Brian's unique take on things that lifts them out of the realm of the 
ordinary. And why do so few people hear that beauty and why fewer women than 
men? (We're assuming from the anecdotal evidence than it is true that more men 
than women like the BBs.) 
Here's some of my thinking: Some of the guys on 
this thread have said it was a guy thing, and originally I rushed to say that It 
must be the masculine in me that loved the music. Like I was a guy relating to 
guy stuff. On another thread a man said that he thought Brian's muse was 
feminine, and that's why it is so seductive. A friend wrote to me that on the 
Imagination video Brian states that sometimes he is in touch with the feminine 
when he writes. Maybe that's it. Maybe some of Brian's music appeals to the 
feminine in men and to the masculine in women. (as well as to the obvious guy 
appeal of a lot of it)And since I'm assuming that there are more men with the 
"feminine" in them than women with the "masculine' in them(in the same way that 
there are more gays than lesbians) then more men than women would be attracted. 
Or maybe I am also relating to the "feminine" in his music, if it’s a true type 
of femininity, as opposed to the stereotypical, commercial, (to me)femininity I 
see in Brittany Spears and her ilk Or maybe everything I just said is a crock! 
If men and women were equally attracted to the BBs, these considerations 
wouldn’t arise. But there being a greater number of male fans than female fans 
has got to have something to do with the fundamental differences between male 
and female. 
UNLESS, the same is true of all male groups. Are there the 
same number of male and female fans of the Stones? REM? No one would be bothered 
by the idea that there are more male fans of the Stones than female; it would be 
expected. I don't know, my brother-in-law is of the opinion that women simply do 
not listen to music as much or need music as much as men. The reason for the 
difference between the number of male and female BB fans may just be that 
simple. Be nice to see some data on that. (does your girlfriend listen to music 
as much as you do?) 
As for me, I remember a movie I saw where this 
couple are keeping a little stone sculpture in their hotel room. It's about two 
inches high. It's worth about $60,000. The hotel maid, who is deaf, steals it. 
But she doesn't try to sell it, she puts it on a shelf in her room where she can 
see it. When she is caught, the police ask her why she did it(if not for the 
money). And this deaf girl writes on a piece of paper: "It spoke to me and I 
heard it." 
And that's what happened to me. 
By Jeanne on Sunday, December 26, 1999 - 04:37 
pm:
By Wild Honey on Monday, 
December 27, 1999 - 09:41 pm:
love that man....love his music..... 
i would love to 
see a resurgence....his music is VERY worthy of a second "wave" of 
popularity....but it might be hard...considering that us "youths" are pounded 
with mindless images with NO substance....to expose them to something as 
mindblowing as Brian's music.....would...well...they just wouldn't get 
it.....i'm all for marketing....as long as they keep his integrity intact! *S* 
By Good God on Monday, December 27, 1999 - 09:44 
pm:
Resistance is futile. heathen. 
Give it a rest. 
By carolineno on Tuesday, December 28, 1999 - 01:30 
am:
Caroline 
Surf's Up! 
By Iain B on 
Tuesday, December 28, 1999 - 06:53 pm:
Urglie Urglie, 
Iain B 
By Jeanne on Tuesday, December 28, 1999 - 07:50 
pm:
By Amy Proctor on 
Tuesday, December 28, 1999 - 08:06 pm:
By NorCalSurfer on Wednesday, December 29, 1999 - 03:52 
am:
By Jeanne on Wednesday, December 29, 1999 - 07:18 
am:
By Another Carl Fan on Wednesday, December 29, 1999 - 
09:32 am:
By NorCalSurfer on Wednesday, December 29, 1999 - 08:12 
pm:
p.s. i 
really enjoy your posts. 
By Jeanne on Thursday, December 30, 1999 - 06:30 
pm:
By John W. 
Proctor on Monday, January 3, 2000 - 03:16 am:
Some women obviously hear things in the Beach Boys that you don't. 
That is not a good/evil issue, but one of art/taste. 
There is a real 
innocence there that is in more than just the lyrics of "In MY Room" or "When I 
Grow Up to Be a Man." Its in the acappella harmonies, the soaring melodies, the 
harmless riffing and rhythms, the musical intricacies of Brian's arrangements, 
the freshness and color of the basic structure of the songs. Its music that 
walks sofly inside your soul, but can also stir up great exuberance and make you 
glad you are alive. It arouses no guilt and refuses to intimidate. 
The best 
thing I can say about it Amy is that I always think of your love when I hear 
"Don't Worry, Baby" and the way you have taken care of me over the years. It 
never ceases to make me cry, and sometimes it makes me cry just walking down the 
street thinking of your innocent love and that sweet melody and those pure 
harmonies and how its really true about us. You make me come alive, and make me 
start to cry when you say, "Don't Worry, Baby. Everything will turn out 
alright..." 
Johnny 
By Wild Honey 
on Monday, January 3, 2000 - 12:57 pm:
urglie 
By Jeanne on Monday, January 3, 2000 - 07:01 
pm:
By Wild Honey 
on Monday, January 3, 2000 - 08:44 pm:
it's 
really nice to touch bases like that....i mean....some men i know idolize 
Brian....and even go as far as to say they "love" him....not love like an 
attraction....but a brotherly love maybe...or like admiration....it's very nice. 
*S* 
By Jeanne on Tuesday, January 4, 2000 - 05:24 
pm:
By Wild Honey 
on Tuesday, January 4, 2000 - 07:24 pm:
hehehehe....like a moth to a flame! 
By Caldonia on Saturday, January 8, 2000 - 07:15 
pm:
By BWFAN on Friday, January 14, 2000 - 09:45 
am:
By Johnm on 
Friday, January 14, 2000 - 06:07 pm:
Thanks for the interesting response on your 'take' - after 
reading your accounts "I want you to have my babies!" I think that there are 
precious few of us fans full stop, no matter what sex. I am sure that one day, 
Brian's music will be heralded as some of the best out of the 20th century and 
open to a wider audience of male and female listeners. Heck, I don't even really 
care - it 'spoke' to me when I was 11 years old (18 years ago) and is still the 
only music I am at complete peace with. It touches my soul. 
John 
By Jeanne on Saturday, January 15, 2000 - 11:03 
am:
By Mark W on 
Sunday, January 23, 2000 - 12:52 am:
By Joanna on 
Wednesday, February 2, 2000 - 01:22 pm:
A lot of misled rubbish has been spouted on this topic. I think 
that BW's music is loved and misunderstood be both men and women. I guess I kind 
of understand the stuff about men generally being more into music than women. 
But maybe that is because women who write their own songs and arrange and 
produce and not encouraged particularly by the commercial market and record 
companies. I would argue that there are few positive and true female geniuses in 
music leaving female musicians with no role models and a much harder task to get 
their efforts noticed. 
I am female and love the beach boys. I cannot 
find one person who has even heard anything past pet sounds and even fewer who 
credit the music as more than amusing bubble gum pop. Still I kind of like 
having them all to myself, its a good feeling like I am holding the key to a 
real magical secret. 
However, For a 19 year old girl who loves the beach 
boys, life can get quite lonely. 
Women when given the fair chance to 
represent themselves in the music industry as something other than a sex symbol, 
maybe female interest in music will become deeper and subsequently we will find 
more female beach boys fans. 
Joanna 
By Buckalew on Saturday, February 5, 2000 - 07:09 
pm:
By NorCalSurfer on Saturday, February 5, 2000 - 09:43 
pm:
By Beach on Monday, February 28, 2000 - 10:51 
pm:
By Rose Amrhein on Tuesday, February 29, 2000 - 07:11 
pm:
At least that's what i 
would think. I mean they were attractive, and sweet, and clean-looking, 
adorable! 
Makes me wish i was born back then:) 
Beautiful music too, 
great harmonizing, and lyrics, really romantic, etc. 
Like someone else said, 
some of it gives me chills, like "God Only Knows" , it's a weird feeling you 
get, anyoneone else want to comment on this? The feeling i get from "God ONly 
Knows" to name just one of the songs, is kind of sad, but deep and emotional, 
really awesome, it makes tears come to my eyes. Brian did a great job with this 
one. I'll always love it.